Kitchen Table Talk – sharing the Gospel with others

We’ve been talking about ideas for our families at their kitchen tables this week. And I’m pretty sure that part of this next idea is something you might already do with your family. Dye Easter eggs. But what I want to get us thinking about is how we could do this and bring in some neighborhood kids or unchurched school friends to do it with us because what better time of year to start a conversation about the death, burial and resurrection of Jesus Christ than Easter!

I’m sure you’ve heard of Resurrection Eggs right? You can get them here or here or here. I love these eggs and have found them to be an incredible evangelistic tool not only for me but for my kids as well. Let your kids listen to you tell the story and then give them the chance to tell part of the story or the entire story. It’s why we’re here on this earth – to spread the Good News! And it can happen at our Kitchen Tables after school one day or on a Saturday. Doesn’t even have to be Easter weekend. So maybe this year consider dying Easter eggs at your kitchen table and then telling the story of Easter with Resurrection eggs. I’ve been amazed at the last few years how God has brought people into our path to share these eggs with. I’m not sure what this will look like for us this year but I’m praying and anticipating the opportunity to share Jesus with some neighboring kids.


Kitchen Table Talk – the power of affirmation

I was cooking dinner one night when I was struck with an idea as I thought about an area in which our son had shown great improvement. We would have a Family Awards Night at the dinner table and he would receive an award for this area of growth.

It sounds ridiculous but it really is fun. You think of something one of your children has accomplished, excelled at or did that you want to affirm and recognize and you give them a small award. We do this for one of the kids at a time because we want them to learn to be happy for each other and not feel like they “have to get an award” just because the other one did. This is hard to do because you see the disappointment in the beginning of the one who didn’t get an award but how many times in life are they going to face this very thing? Why not help prepare them at the kitchen table for it in a tiny way. Seriously, the kitchen table is such an incredible training ground.

The award is meant to be sort of silly. Like one time I made an award out of tin foil and straws and it was stupid looking but Mitchell loved it. Of course he would. He’s my eccentric, quirky one. And then one time I gave Sophie a pack of gum because she would’ve rolled her eyes and stuck her tongue out at the freak-show tin foil creation. You could do whatever you wanted for the award and the award could be for anything positive you want to point out. It could be for catching your child sharing or serving another family member. It could be for a great test grade or improvement in a certain area. I use an index card or construction paper and write out a name for the award in chicken scratch “Creativity Award” or “Standing up for what’s right Award”  presented to: ____________   on such and such a date. One time we did it and someone yelled, “Speech, Speech!”  Mitchell stood on his chair and thanked everyone for coming out (the whopping four of us) and how happy he was to receive the award. Ha! Impromptu moments are the best, are they not?

Something like this is especially good for those of us who are not natural affirmers. I am one of those people. I’m working on it though and this is just one way that forces me to communicate what I see and think in my head but don’t always say out loud. A lot goes on in my head but it stays there. And sometimes that’s a really good thing. Ha! Because I could give all the material a joke writer would need for blond jokes. Seriously, it’s not even funny how true that is. But at least I know it’s true.

Let me leave us with this reminder from scripture today:

“The tongue has the power of life and death,
and those who love it will eat its fruit.” Proverbs 18:21

What are we speaking over our children at our tables?



Kitchen Table Talk – 1

Let me be quick to say that our kitchen table is not always filled with family Hallmark moments. No, not at all. I won’t talk about all the times our kids make crude noises at the kitchen table, smack their food and say inappropriate things. Or the times we get snippy with each other after a long day’s work and end up eating in complete silence. Or maybe I will tell you all that. Because we aren’t a family that has it all together by any means. We have our own unique issues like every family does. We mess it up royally but sometimes we get it right. Just like you do. And so my goal is to simply share some things we’ve done around our kitchen table that has deepened our family roots. And in turn I hope that maybe these things will spur on some great family moments around other kitchen tables.

I read recently that 60 years ago, the average dinnertime was 90 minutes. Today it is less than 12 minutes.

Our family is working hard to make sure we fall somewhere between a 30-45 minute dinner time together. This means we have to think through homework, activities, work schedules and meal preparation in advance. Sometimes the dirty dinner dishes remain on the table until we get back from Scouts and that drives me nuts but it really is okay. Sometimes my husband comes home early for dinner and then goes back to the church for a meeting. It would be so much easier for him to just stay there and eat afterwards. But he comes home so he can sit at the dinner table and be with his family. I LOVE this about him. Unfortunately many pastors are guilty of neglecting their families for the sake of the church and I praise God that mine is not one of them. My point is that it will take sacrifice to get our families together most nights of the week and sit there for more than 12 minutes. But it’s worth it.

Some families might actually be in culture shock to sit at the dinner table for more than 12 minutes. I read this quote by Julie Kidd this week that absolutely cracked me up, “I don’t want to say we eat out a lot, but I’ve noticed that lately when I call my kids for dinner, they run to the car.” Oh my word. Hilarious!

So if your kids are running to the car when you call for dinner then the first few nights you actually sit together at your kitchen table for more than 12 minutes it might feel strange. But I assure you it will feel good and soon everyone will look forward to it and grow accustomed to it.

I’ve got a dinner table idea to share with you today. It’s a simple idea to incorporate after everyone has finished their food. Now hear me out before you roll your eyes and think we are “that family” who reads out of the Greek and Hebrew and does prayer chants before meal time. Nope. But we do take reading seriously and encourage it in our family. A famous person once said, “Leaders are readers.” Ha! I had to get that in there. Randy has told me that since our first year of marriage and he still says it. Okay, but seriously we happened on this idea of reading after dinner when someone loaned us a biography called  “Gifted Hands”. It’s an amazing story about a Doctor named Ben Carson. We all loved this book. And all we did was just read one chapter out of the book after dinner. We took turns reading a chapter each night. Sophie is a young reader so she would only read one page or two and then someone else would read the rest. If we forgot about it the kids would remind us to read out of the Ben Carson book. We didn’t do it every night but when we did it sure was fun. It also provided some really good discussion as a family about lots of different things. So many good books out there. I recently ordered two more books for us to read together after dinner. Dietrich Bonhoeffer and Cory Ten Boom. All the biographies I’ve mentioned are written for kids and the chapters are short and super easy to read. Reading as a family is such a treasure! And doing it at the dinner table is fun. 

I know this wasn’t the most innovative dinner table idea but give it a whirl and see how your family responds. Even if you are a big reading family – just at other times in your day – try it at the dinner table and see where your conversation goes afterwards.

More on Table Talks later this week.